Love

You must not try to make love definite. It is the divine accident of life.

Sherwood Anderson

Sherwood Anderson is an author widely recognized for his stirring and sometimes stark portrayal of life in the American Midwest. His 1919 collection of short stories, “Winesburg, Ohio: A Group of Tales of Ohio Small-Town Life,'' includes the tragic story of Elizabeth Willard, a woman who has been disappointed by her marriage and her life in Winesburg. Elizabeth’s friend Doctor Reefy speaks these poignant words as he tries to comfort her. Though this quote was written more than 100 years ago, it still rings true, reminding readers that love is a mysterious and capricious force, more powerful than our plans. Rather than try to control the uncontrollable, we should open our hearts and be thankful when our lives are touched by love. 

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Happiness

It isn't a sadness, but a joy, that we don't do the same things for the length of our lives.

Gabrielle Zevin

Gabrielle Zevin’s New York Times-bestselling novel "Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow" follows the lives of friends and video game designers Sam, Sadie, and Marx. This quote appears as Marx, once a dedicated student actor, confesses to Sadie that he doesn’t regret not pursuing a career in acting. The sentiment reflects his philosophy, a belief that's mirrored by the endless possibilities for exploration and experimentation found in video games. Zevin’s words remind us that while we are limited to just one life, we have many opportunities for new and enriching experiences. Rather than being a source of sadness, the inevitability of change can bring a sense of excitement and joy.

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Wisdom

Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone.

Alan Watts

Few people did more to popularize Eastern philosophy in the West than the British writer, speaker, and philosopher Alan Watts. From the late 1930s through to the 1970s, Watts wrote more than 20 books and published numerous articles that helped interpret and popularize Buddhist, Taoist, and Hindu philosophiesy among a wider Western audience. He became particularly popular in the 1960s, especially among members of the emerging hippie counter culture. In 1957, Watts published his book “The Way of Zen,” from which this quote comes. “It is hard to see how the world can be improved by keeping still,” he wrote. “Yet it should be obvious that action without wisdom, without clear awareness of the world as it really is, can never improve anything.” As Watts points out, sometimes the best way to deal with a go-go-go world is simply to take a break and think deeply rather than acting rashly.

Alan Watts
Alan Watts
British philosopher, writer, and speaker (1915-1973)
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Motivation

Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.

Bertrand Russell

One of the most prominent intellectuals of the 20th century, Bertrand Russell was a polymath who believed that ideas could change the world. In addition to being a mathematician, philosopher, and preeminent logician, he was also a humanist and a pacifist whose ideas at times proved controversial — his pacifism during World War I, for instance, earned him a six-month spell in prison. In a December 1951 issue of “The New York Times Magazine,” Russell published his “ten commandments” of critical thinking, including the one featured here. He reminds us that although our thoughts and ideas may not be accepted at first, every great thought and idea once had to face its share of skepticism and naysayers.  

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Love

If you need something from somebody, always give that person a way to hand it to you.

Sue Monk Kidd

Sue Monk Kidd is a bestselling author known for her thoughtful perspective on spirituality and feminism. Her 2001 novel “The Secret Life of Bees” follows 14-year-old Lily as she leaves her abusive home to find healing and a new beginning with a group of beekeeping sisters. The story, set in the racially segregated South of the 1960s, tackles racial inequality and questions of belonging. This quote is one of the many lessons that August, Lily’s chosen mother figure, imparts to the young girl throughout the story. The succinct yet thoughtful advice can apply to any of our needs, whether great or small. The next time we find ourselves reaching out for help or support, we can draw on this wisdom and pause to consider how we can best support the giver. In doing so, we may inspire others to do the same when it comes time for them to request something of us. 

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Happiness

The quality of your life depends quite a bit on the quality of attention you project out onto the world.

David Brooks

David Brooks is a professor, author, and longtime columnist for “The New York Times.” In his 2023 book, “How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen,” Brooks describes how we might heal as a society by learning how to fully recognize the sacred humanity in those around us. He coined the term “illuminator” to describe the kind of person who knows instinctively how to help others feel fully seen and known. In this quote, he reminds us that making these efforts to pay attention to our surroundings and our fellow humans will enhance not only the lives of others, but our own life as well. After all, attention is a form of love.

David Brooks
David Brooks
Political commentator (1961-present)
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Hope

Open to whatever you experience without fighting. Let it be present just as it is. Let go of the battle.

Jack Kornfield

Jack Kornfield, a prominent Buddhist practitioner, author, and mindfulness teacher, often encourages radical acceptance of all life experiences. As he writes in this quote from his 1993 book “A Path With Heart,” rather than resisting whatever emotions or situations arise, we should instead acknowledge and embrace all our thoughts, feelings, and circumstances without struggling against them. It can be transformative to practice being fully present and aware of everything that comes our way, even — and perhaps especially — the difficult things. Our experiences are not adversaries to conquer. Relinquishing inner conflict and finding peace in acceptance can help us learn to let go and discover the freedom that comes with doing so.

Jack Kornfield
Jack Kornfield
Buddhist teacher (1945-present)
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Wisdom

Don’t be afraid to be confused. Try to remain permanently confused. Anything is possible.

George Saunders

Confusion can undoubtedly be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be a negative thing. In fact, in his 2007 essay collection “The Braindead Megaphone,” author George Saunders frames confusion as a positive state of being, one that opens up new possibilities and opportunities. It’s a classic Saunders perspective: insightful and empathetic, thoughtful and energizing, even when it’s exacting. Being confused prompts us to question, analyze, and ultimately find or create solutions. It keeps us engaged, pushing us to be creative and think outside the box. It can also expand our capacity to navigate ambiguity and uncertainty, cultivating critical thinking skills and resilience. The reward is, if not clarity, then at least some progress in our lifelong learning journey. 

George Saunders
George Saunders
Writer (1958-present)
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Isabel Ibañez is a Bolivian American author of powerful historical fantasy novels such as “What the River Knows,” “Together We Burn,” and “Woven in Moonlight,” in which this quote appears. “Woven in Moonlight,” which is largely based on the recent political climate of Bolivia, follows Ximena, named after Ibañez’s mother, as she resists the oppressive regime and fights for the right to happiness, love, and revolution. This quote embodies the spirit of the novel, reminding us that when our intentions are pure and just, they are immortal. It’s a subtle call to action for all of us, emphasizing the importance of standing up for our fellow humans so that they may do the same for us. 

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Wisdom

In art and dream may you proceed with abandon. In life may you proceed with balance and stealth.

Patti Smith

Throughout her life, accomplished singer, poet, painter, and National Book Award-winning author Patti Smith has effortlessly and successfully leapt from one creative discipline to another. In the introduction of her 1994 poetry collection “Early Work,” Smith offers these words of wisdom to the reader, highlighting the dual approaches she’s taken in various aspects of her own life. She urges us to be fearless and unrestrained when it comes to our creative endeavors, allowing our imagination to guide us without constraints or inhibitions. On the other hand, she reminds us that forging a successful creative life requires us to stay grounded and maintain our equilibrium elsewhere, by adopting a more measured and practical attitude in our day-to-day lives.

Patti Smith
Patti Smith
Singer, songwriter, and poet (1946-present)
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